Tag: affair safety guide

• Essay: How to Stay Anonymous on a Married Dating Site: Protecting Your Identity From the First Click to the First Kiss

  Nicola had been chatting to a man on the site for about a week when he signed off one evening with: “Night night, Nicola. Hope the audit goes well tomorrow.” She had never told him her surname. She had never told him her job. She certainly hadn’t mentioned the audit. It turned out he had…

• Essay: Is This Profile Real? How to Spot Fakes, Scammers and Time-Wasters on a Married Dating Site

  Graham had been on the site eleven days when the message arrived that made him feel about ten feet tall. She was thirty-eight. She was apparently in Solihull, twelve minutes from his office. And she had read his profile closely enough to ask him about the fishing. Three messages later she wanted to move to…

• I Want to Join a Dating Site but I’m Terrified of Being Caught. Where Do I Even Start?

  The question that arrived from a reader — let’s call her Rachel from Bristol — is one we’ve heard in various forms more times than we can count. But she put it particularly well: “I’ve been thinking about joining Illicit Encounters for months. I’ve written out the registration form in my head a hundred times.…