Tag: affair advice

• My Lover Walked Past Me in Sainsbury’s. My Husband Was Pushing the Trolley.

  She came face to face with her lover in the supermarket — husband in tow. What to do in the moment, and the ‘stranger protocol’ every affair quietly needs. Dear Mia, I’ve been seeing someone from the site for four months. On Saturday I was doing the weekly shop with my husband — he was…

• The Sunday Problem: Why Weekends Are Often the Hardest Part of an Affair

  There’s an assumption about married dating that goes something like this: weekdays are for the marriage, and weekends — those stolen Saturday nights, those long unhurried afternoons — are when the affair really comes alive. It sounds plausible. Romantic, even. But ask anyone who’s been on a married dating site for more than a few…

• Essay: How to Start an Affair: Everything You Need to Know Before You Begin

  There’s a gap that a lot of people live in for a very long time. On one side: the marriage they’re in, which may be perfectly functional and completely unfulfilling. On the other: the idea of something different — more alive, more seen, more them — which feels simultaneously obvious and impossible. This post is…

• He Almost Deleted His Profile After Three Flat Coffees. Then He Stopped Auditioning.

  Three flat first coffees nearly made one IllicitEncounters member delete his profile for good. What he changed before the fourth date is advice worth stealing. The third coffee ended the way the first two had: a polite hug outside a Costa in Knutsford, a “lovely to meet you,” and a message two days later that…

• Essay: How to Write a Married Dating Profile That Actually Gets Noticed (Without Giving Yourself Away)

  How to write a married dating profile that gets genuine replies while protecting your privacy – photos, bio, first messages and discretion, all explained. There’s a particular kind of paralysis that hits people the moment the little box appears. Name, age, a few lines about yourself, add a photo. For a form that takes most…

• My Lover Keeps Asking About My Husband. How Much Should I Actually Tell Him?

  Your affair partner wants to know all about your marriage. Mia on how much to share, what to hold back, and why oversharing can quietly kill the spark. Dear Mia, I’ve been seeing someone through the site for around four months now, and it’s the happiest I’ve felt in years. The problem is he’s started…