Tag: discreet connections

• The Quiet Snitch in Your Pocket: How Predictive Text Gives Married Daters Away

  Your phone’s keyboard learns every name you type – including his. Here’s how predictive text quietly exposes married daters, and how to hush it. Most people worry about the obvious things when it comes to married dating. The messages, deleted the second they’re read. The photos, tucked away behind a passcode. The browser history, cleared…

• It’s Never the Texts That Catch You. It’s the £4.20 Coffee.

  Married daters obsess over their phones and forget the easiest trail of all: money. Seven ways your spending gives you away — and how to spend a little smarter. Most people who join a married dating site spend their first fortnight worrying about exactly the wrong thing. They lock the phone behind a second passcode.…

• iPhone vs Android: Which Phone Actually Hides a Married Dating App Better?

  It’s one of the questions Mia is asked most often through the IE inbox: “I’m signing up to Illicit Encounters — is my iPhone safer, or should I be doing this on my Android?” It’s a fair thing to wonder. Most people choose their phone for the camera or the colour. Almost nobody picks one…

• The Sunday Problem: Why Weekends Are Often the Hardest Part of an Affair

  There’s an assumption about married dating that goes something like this: weekdays are for the marriage, and weekends — those stolen Saturday nights, those long unhurried afternoons — are when the affair really comes alive. It sounds plausible. Romantic, even. But ask anyone who’s been on a married dating site for more than a few…

• She Didn’t Expect to Like Him. That Was the First Problem.

  Rachel from Winchester was forty-three when she signed up. She’d been married for sixteen years to a man who, by any reasonable account, was decent. Mark wasn’t cruel. He didn’t forget her birthday. He put the bins out, went to their daughter’s netball matches, and occasionally remembered to bring home flowers on a Friday —…

• From Sign-Up to First Coffee: What the First Six Weeks on a Married Dating Site Actually Look Like

  The honest answer to “what happens when I join a married dating site?” is: a lot less than you fear, and a lot more than you expect. We asked long-standing members to walk us through what their first six weeks on Illicit Encounters actually looked like — not the glossy fantasy version, the real one.…

• He’d Forgotten He Could Be Like This

  Paul hadn’t planned to join a married dating site on a Tuesday evening in February. He’d planned to watch the end of a football match, drink one beer too many, and go to bed at ten. That was a Tuesday in the Whitmore household. That was how things went. His wife Karen was in the…

• My Husband and I Are Basically Flatmates — Is That Normal?

  Dear Mia, I’ve been married for fourteen years and I love my husband — I do. But somewhere along the way we stopped being a couple and started being… housemates? We split the bills, coordinate the school run, argue about whose turn it is to ring the plumber. We haven’t been on a date in…

• The Unwritten Rules of Married Dating

  There are things nobody tells you when you first create a profile on a married dating site. No instruction manual, no FAQ that covers what really matters. You work most of it out as you go — sometimes smoothly, sometimes rather less so. Plenty of members have been exactly where you are. They’ve learned, adapted,…

• Monday to Sunday: The Seven Tiny Slip-Ups That Catch Careful Married Daters Out

  Nobody gets caught by one big mistake. It’s seven small ones, spread across an ordinary week. How careful married daters quietly give themselves away. Rob, 46, from Warrington, did everything right. A separate email address. Notifications switched off. Messages deleted the same evening they arrived. He’d read all the guides — quite possibly including ours.…