Tag: affair motivations

• My Husband and I Are Basically Flatmates — Is That Normal?

  Dear Mia, I’ve been married for fourteen years and I love my husband — I do. But somewhere along the way we stopped being a couple and started being… housemates? We split the bills, coordinate the school run, argue about whose turn it is to ring the plumber. We haven’t been on a date in…

• The House Went Quiet — And So Did My Marriage

  Helen, 54, stood in her son’s empty bedroom for forty minutes the morning after his university drop-off. Not crying. Just standing, listening to the new silence of a home that suddenly felt like a museum of someone else’s life. “I realised I didn’t know who I was married to anymore,” she told me. “And worse…

• David’s Story: The Affair That Saved My Marriage

  Names and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy. This is a real story shared by an Illicit Encounters member, published with permission. “I know how that sounds,” David says, stirring his coffee without looking up. “The affair that saved my marriage. Like I’m trying to justify something selfish by pretending it had a…

• Why Do People Cheat? The Real Reasons Behind Infidelity

  Infidelity is rarely as simple as it appears from the outside. While every situation is unique, years of listening to our members has revealed patterns in why people seek connections outside their relationships. It’s Not Always About Sex Contrary to popular belief, most affairs don’t begin with physical attraction as the primary driver. Our members…

• The Three‑Hour Conversation That Started an Affair

  The affair doesn’t begin with sex. It begins with a conversation that feels different—someone who asks questions your spouse hasn’t asked in years, who listens with genuine interest, who sees you as interesting rather than as a functionary in the household. “My affair started with a three-hour conversation about books,” Sarah, 45, from Birmingham, told…

• Why Good People Cheat: Breaking Down the Psychology of Infidelity

  Infidelity isn’t reserved for villains. It isn’t the exclusive domain of narcissists, sociopaths, or people with no moral compass. The uncomfortable truth? Most people who cheat are fundamentally good people — parents who help with homework, colleagues who cover shifts, friends who show up in crises — who find themselves in situations where the lines…